#337

I listened to an interview of Connor McGregor this morning. When asked, "At what age did you realize you were good at fighting?" he said, "I'm Irish, we're all good at fighting." Naturally, this made me think of... Megan. Does her stubbornness, her combativeness, come from her Irish ancestry? (Along with, maybe, her charm?) She likes a melee, especially with me. She can come out swingin'. Only with words, of course. Although, maybe I should put boxing gloves on her and headgear on myself. I'd prefer this to the verbal shots, jabs, complaints.

Meg-Pie was the first at our house to finish Christmas shopping. She made a big list (a Google doc, actually, which they use in school now; what cavemen we were for using loose leaf paper). Then we hit Target, and what was left, ordered online. She quickly had 20 gifts, wrapped and ready. I asked her to wrap some presents for me and she did it cheerfully. I said, "What have you done with Megan?" No, I didn't; I said thank you. Meg has an unselfish, practical streak, and a powerful organizing instinct (not reflected in the rubbish and rubble comprising her room, most days, but still). She's a bit of an artist also, and studios aren't spotless. She's painting on canvas now. It's cool. I really love the shit out of my daughter. Ooh, that's maybe too much, not right, gross... but reminiscent of the days she was small enough to fit on a changing table; that was a cute little Megan.

I read an article about how dads should have a "stern but encouraging paternal hand." Slick writing. Which is my way of deflecting. "Stern" is not a strength. I'm so not stern that this article reminded me of Bronson Alcott, father of the famous Louisa May. (You'll see why I remember him in a second.) Bronson sought to reform schools about 200 years ago. Perhaps his most controversial idea was to have students punish teachers. Yeah. A guilty student, having committed some error or offense, would punish the teacher, who was also to blame for allowing the failure to occur. Or something. A misbehaving child would strike the teacher's hand, for example. Think back to your school days now.... It was supposed to illicit shame in the student. Regardless, I don't wish to disparage Bronson Alcott. He had a special daughter for one thing. He was an abolitionist, an activist for women's rights, and a philosophic, progressive thinker who sought to awaken both the minds and souls of young people. Right on.