Dad Entry #178

Sometimes I smell Megan's shirts. There are hints of shampoo, perfume, body wash, fruity lip gloss, art supplies, and whatever meals I’ve cooked badly. I suppose if the olfactory traces are too faint, I notice some of these things visually; Megan’s sleeve cuffs, for example, are often like stain rainbows, or Jackson Pollock paintings, done in paint, yes, but also marker, glitter glue, barbeque, marinara, and chocolate. I’m afraid smelling Megan’s shirts is not the strangest thing I’ve ever done. And I don’t do it – inhale her shirt-captured, subtle, aromatic essence – when she’s with me; in that case, I kiss her on the head and stick my nose into her hair. I'm not a sommelier. Or a canine. Or a crazy. I don’t think so, anyway; I think I’m just a dad. I pine for her a little – even as a sense of freedom-from-whining lifts me – when I’m doing her laundry, after she’s rotated back to Mom’s following a few days with me.

I held Megan's hand yesterday. Her mitts are still pretty little, dainty and thin-fingered, and entirely neglected; even the grubbiest of men would notice her cuticles are crying for help. Anyway, I’m happy Megan’s still small. Years ago, I heard a wise person say, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” I stop and look around once in a while.

I'm sheepish about making this a bragging forum, but my kids are smart. That’s it. That’s all. Michael's halfway through 5th grade and his teacher notified us she’s ordered 7th grade reading material for him and two other students, his good friends Alexa and Megha. (Figures, mostly girls.) I’m excited for Michael, you betcha, nerds are the rage! It's been that way for years now. Think Zuckerberg, Jobs, Bezos, Bill Gates, Larry Page, Mark Cuban, etc. Nerdy is the new cool! Nerdom is the place to be! I think. I hope. I mean, it seems that way. It's cool, right? :)

My car is filthy. At this point, I just think of it as a crumb-filled commuter pod. Dive bars that give away unshelled peanuts are ten times cleaner. The exterior is even worse, of course, coated with that salty, oily film so richly layered by showers of brown slush and passing-car spray. It’s winter in Chicago.